Problems for myself

I will be honest here, I have had issues myself
Not feeling the connection and several fears running through my mind at all times
I had been searching for self help material for months and had no luck coming across what looked to be good material but was gimmicks for high price
Luckily, I came across "Developing Intimacy" by Becky Herdmann, a creative and poise writer
It literally reprogrammed my mind to overcome fears and past limiting beliefs
I slowly started noticing I was connecting with women I was interested in, more than a hard shell relationship
Something that I hadn't felt in years from a prior girlfriend
I realized nothing couldn't be changed, your mind has the power of reality
Psychology is just....amazing...

Fear : What are the Indicators, how do I know?

Indicators of fear of intimacy

How do you know if you have a fear of intimacy? Possible indicators include:

• reluctance to share thoughts and feelings with your lover or spouse.
• refusal to talk about personal or even superficial events with your friends or family. These discussions go a long way in building intimacy.
• prolonged singlehood – for several years, and yet you wish for a relationship. You want to be involved but have a hard time building intimacy.
• multiple dates or sexual partners, with no emotional ties.
• affairs or one-night stands, with no chance of building intimacy
• few or no close friends

The bottom line is that you don’t let people in. Fear of intimacy is keeping people out.

The Beginning

Building intimacy takes time.

When you’re truly intimate with your partner you can talk about who you really are, say what you need and want, and be heard by him/her. Intimate relationships have a sense of mutuality, which means you’re as concerned with your partner’s satisfaction and happiness as with your own. You want to see your partner emotionally, intellectually, socially, sexually and professionally fulfilled. Building intimacy doesn't mean you'll make all that happen, of course, but your partner’s satisfaction is equally important to you

Fear of intimacy becomes less of an issue when you're building intimacy.